Fed up

Fed up

Emotional Labor, Women, and the Way Forward

eBook - 2018
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From Gemma Hartley, the journalist who ignited a national conversation on emotional labor, comes Fed Up, a bold dive into the unpaid, invisible work women have shouldered for too long--and an impassioned vision for creating a better future for us all.

Day in, day out, women anticipate and manage the needs of others. In relationships, we initiate the hard conversations. At home, we shoulder the mental load required to keep our households running. At work, we moderate our tone, explaining patiently and speaking softly. In the world, we step gingerly to keep ourselves safe. We do this largely invisible, draining work whether we want to or not--and we never clock out. No wonder women everywhere are overtaxed, exhausted, and simply fed up.

In her ultra-viral article "Women Aren't Nags--We're Just Fed Up," shared by millions of readers, Gemma Hartley gave much-needed voice to the frustration and anger experienced by countless women. Now, in Fed Up, Hartley expands outward from the everyday frustrations of performing thankless emotional labor to illuminate how the expectation to do this work in all arenas--private and public--fuels gender inequality, limits our opportunities, steals our time, and adversely affects the quality of our lives.

More than just name the problem, though, Hartley teases apart the cultural messaging that has led us here and asks how we can shift the load. Rejecting easy solutions that don't ultimately move the needle, Hartley offers a nuanced, insightful guide to striking real balance, for true partnership in every aspect of our lives. Reframing emotional labor not as a problem to be overcome, but as a genderless virtue men and women can all learn to channel in our quest to make a better, more egalitarian world, Fed Up is surprising, intelligent, and empathetic essential reading for every woman who has had enough with feeling fed up.

Publisher: New York, NY : HarperOne, [2018]
ISBN: 9780062856487
Characteristics: text file, rda
Additional Contributors: OverDrive, Inc. - Distributor

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Apr 17, 2019

(As a male) While initially I thought the book was intended to provide vocabulary to a stereotypical challenge faced by women all around the world, it is so much more than that. The intention of the book is to not only make men aware of societal teachings regarding the assumption that women will take on the emotional labour or mental load, but also the ways in which it impacts the women in your life, and to a degree, what men can do to be more in control of our lives with regards to taking on some of this load.

The benefits I've received from this book far outweighs the effort to read it; developed a stronger relationship with my partner, a better understanding of the trials women have had and continue to go through, and the basis to make a difference in these trends in my own circles. I can't thank the author enough!

Feb 06, 2019

The absolute, best wake-up remedy for the man in every relationship regardless of how long you have been with your partner or spouse. A MUST READ to understand why women feel the way they feel about tasks, routines, work loads. I am buying this book.... yes, I am a husband of 35yrs and this is educational.

Hillsboro_StephanieC Dec 19, 2018

Thorough, practical, and enlightening.


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