The Pursuit of Perfect

The Pursuit of Perfect

How to Stop Chasing Perfection and Start Living A Richer, Happier Life

Book - 2009
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A Harvard professor argues that people are unhappy because they're caught in the Myth of Perfection--a dangerous trend fueling society's obsession with having it all. Ben-Shahar believes people need to be more realistic in their goals, and "The Pursuit of Perfect" shows them how.
Publisher: New York : McGraw-Hill, c2009
ISBN: 9780071608824
Branch Call Number: Health & Wellness 155.232 Ben


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May 17, 2018

This is one of the best books I've read in a while. I'm a recovering perfectionist, so a lot of it resonates with me. I used to try to avoid pain, but now I see how important it is to just face so called problems or unpleasant emotions head on instead of running away or suppressing it. By suppressing it, it gets worse. It's better to just allow it to pass through. I've yet to read the author's other book.

george0819 Feb 15, 2014

I think this effort overdoes the Perfectionist/Optimist dynamic.

Without disrespecting the author, I believe Shawn Achor's "before happiness" is more actionable and a better read !

Jul 07, 2012

A great book on dealing with perfectionism. Quite learned, which might put some people off, but very wise.

May 14, 2011

This book is a must for anyone looking to find more happiness and less stress in thier life. Simple yet profound, this book walks the reader through the steps to rid oneself of perfectionism. By accepting reality, accepting failure, accepting successes, and accepting your emotions - you can be happier. The author makes a very good point: Perfectionism, like most of our vices, is just an extreme version of a positive virtue. Perfectionism, from this view, is but the extreme version of the desire to do well. The key is to find balance - and once you do, watch the vices disappear. How? Cognitive Therapy. By observing your throughts, beliefs, and assumptions about events that happen in your life and finding more useful and helpful alternative explanations, you will feel much better about your life and find life-solutions more quickly rather than falling into unrealistic expectations.


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May 14, 2011

In essence, Perfectionists reject everything that deviates from their flawless, faultless ideal vision, and as a result they suffer whenever they do not meet their own unrealistic standards. Optimalists accept, and make the best of, everything that life has to offer.”


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