Between Two Worlds

Between Two Worlds

The Inner Lives of Children of Divorce

Book - 2005
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An astonishing one quarter of adults between the ages of eighteen and thirty-five have grown up in divorced families. Now, as this generation comes of age, Between Two Worlds will speak to them like no other book. Elizabeth Marquardt (together with sociologist Norval Glenn) conducted a pioneering new national study of the children of divorce, surveying 1,500 young adults from both divorced and intact families and interviewing more than seventy of them at length. In Between Two Worlds, she weaves the findings of that study together with powerful, unsentimental stories of the childhoods of young people from divorced families-as well as her own story of growing up as a child of divorce. She asks us to acknowledge that children are profoundly shaped by divorce, even though, as adults, they might be accomplished and seem "fine." While many experts maintain that there are "good divorces," praise the idea of "blended families," and assure divorced parents that kids are resilient, Marquardt calls this "happy talk" and warns that it causes children to bury their real feelings. The hard truth, she says, is that while divorce is sometimes necessary, there is no such thing as a good divorce. An amicable divorce is certainly better than a bitter one, but even amicable divorces sow lasting inner conflict in the lives of children. When a family breaks in two, children who stay in touch with both parents must travel between two worlds, trying alone to reconcile their parents' often strikingly different beliefs, values, and ways of living. Even a "good divorce" restructures childhood itself. Not surprisingly, many children of divorce seem like old souls. Often they feel like they have a different identity in each of their parents' worlds. Secrets are epidemic. Home feels less safe, and they are far less likely than the children of intact marriages to go to their parents for comfort or emotional support. Some question their parents' morality and choices. Like their peers from intact families, they long for spirituality, but their feelings of loss, mistrust, and anger toward their parents deeply complicate their spiritual journeys-even translating into anger at God. Marquardt's data is undeniably compelling, but at the heart of her book are stories-of reunions with one parent that were always partings from the other, of struggles to adapt to a parent's moods, of the burden of having to figure out the important questions in life alone. Authoritative, beautifully written, and filled with brave, sad, unflinchingly honest voices, Between Two Worlds is a book of transforming power for the adult children of divorce, whose real experiences have for too long gone unrecognized. Book jacket.
Publisher: New York : Crown Publishers, c2005
ISBN: 9780307237101
0307237109
Branch Call Number: Health & Wellness 306.89 Mar

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